The high beauty standards society imposes on girls puts them at odds with one another. Instead of being in solidarity, a lot of girls bring each other down and spread hate.
Social media has opened up more doors for girl-on-girl hate. Women insult each other behind screens because they don’t have to see how their words directly affect the person that they are insulting.
Scrolling through female Youtuber and beauty guru feeds, I see girls post comments such as, “this isn’t real beauty," “you’re only doing this to get more followers,” and “you’re so fake." I am shocked by how harsh these women can be. Comments like these can really hurt a person, and as much as they try to brush it off with a good laugh, it still stings.
While girl-on-girl hate has been addressed before, Lilly Singh, also known as “Superwoman," is the first Youtuber to combat this issue not only onscreen, but offscreen as well. Her youtube channel, “iisuperwomanii," contains multiple skits and messages about positivity to make people smile.
In December 2015, Singh posted a video on her channel called “The #girllove challenge." The purpose of this video is to persuade girls to stop girl-on-girl hate and start being more kind to each other. As a girl, I felt that this video sends an important message. Finally, someone is addressing the problem of girl-on-girl hate that has plagued the lives of girls all across the nation.
This past July, Singh posted another video, “Goodbye Hate, Hello #Girllove!," where she announced that she was turning the “#girllove challenge” into an official campaign called “#girllove”.
Why is it so easy to be negative, and so hard to be positive? Girls love to support and motivate their idols, but what about those who are just trying to get by like they are? It may sound too good to be true, but a little positivity can go a long way.
“Girl Love is a cause I really believe in,” Singh said in an interview on the Tonight Show. “It’s to tackle the cycle of girl-on-girl hate. The idea behind Girl Love is to make it cool to compliment other women and build them up.”
In August, Singh traveled to Washington, D.C. to speak to first lady Michelle Obama about Girl Love and how she wants to give young girls in Kenya the opportunity to receive an education. In mid-September, Singh traveled to Kenya for a while to make and sell Rafiki bracelets in order to raise money for girls in Kenya so that they can to go to school. The bracelets can be purchased at metowe.com.
Singh’s trip to Kenya is a perfect example of what Girl Love is all about: being able to support one another through hardships and help each other achieve our goals, such as getting an education.
Singh’s campaign is admirable because it promotes unity. Growing up, I always saw girls trying to put each other down in order to boost their own self-confidence. I rarely ever saw girls compliment each other and genuinely mean it, which is why I think that Singh can be a good role model.
Singh is a genuine person who is proud of who she is, loves to make people smile, and has a fascinating obsession with unicorns. Most importantly, she accepts the fact that she is not perfect.
It’s time to stop acting like we are in Mean Girls. We have to embrace our awesome girl power and be proud of who we are. I know it is easier said than done, but we should at least try. The first step toward ending girl-on-girl hate is to join “The #Girllove Challenge” campaign and stop bagging on other girls. Be the change you want to see.